Welcome to February- the traditional month of love.
Do you ever struggle to show appreciation and love to your husband? Do you feel like you’re in a rut of complaining and nagging? Or do you simply want to show a little extra love this month? Whatever category you fall into, I know you’ll benefit from these ideas!
There are times it is easy to show love and appreciation to our spouses, then there is the rest of the time. Life’s many stressors can cause me to not only underappreciate my husband, but to start blaming him for difficult times and situations.
As we roll into this new month, my mind quickly goes to planning a special Valentine’s Day dinner, but I am challenging myself to focus this entire second month of 2024 on making my man feel loved and appreciated.
Whether you’re reading this in February or not, you can use these ideas any time of year to remind your special someone that you care.
Choose Him
When you’re at a social event (or for those of us with larger families- just sitting down to dinner)
Choose to sit by him. Save a seat beside yourself so he knows you prioritize him and enjoy his presence.
Write Notes
Sending a sweet text is good, but there is just something extra special about giving a handwritten card or note. Leave it in his vehicle or lunch box, stick it to the bathroom mirror, put it in a book he is reading or his Bible, or even mail it to him. He is sure to appreciate the effort.
Make Him a Special Dinner
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I think most men have a lot deeper character than that, but I don’t know a man who doesn’t appreciate good food. In fact, when I asked my husband what was one thing I do, or could do, that would make him feel loved, he replied that making dinner or some special meal for him is close to the top of his list!
Hug For 15-30 Seconds
When you hug for a longer than “normal” time, it really helps strengthen your bond. And that is always a good thing in marriage.
Kiss Everyday
Adding a longer kiss to a longer hug is sure to make your husband feel loved. Sometimes we get away from kissing the longer we have been married. I know that has been true for me.
Building intimacy in marriage is so important! And intimacy is not just sex. So kiss him good morning, and goodbye, and welcome home, and goodnight.
Don’t Complain About His Messes
There are some men who clean up after themselves and work hard to help with household chores, and then there are the other 99%. Haha! Just kidding. However, my guy’s strength is not tidiness. I often fall into the harmful trap of complaining and making a big deal out of cleaning up after him. Muddy footprints again?!?!? I can tell it makes him feel terrible because he honestly just doesn’t think about it. I am determined to be better about this- at least for a month!
Hold Hands
The physical connection created by holding hands symbolizes the emotional connection this act creates. Be proud to hold the hand of your man!
Bake or Buy Him a Sweet Treat
What guy doesn’t love dessert? If you’re not a baker, try picking up his favorite treat at the store or bakery. He might even share!
Tell Him What You Love About Him
Remind your spouse, and yourself, of all the things you love about him. From talents and character traits to your favorite physical features of his.Pray For Him
I never realized how much it meant to my husband that I pray for him until it came up in conversation one day. He was so grateful and appreciative that it shocked me! Our guys face so much temptation, stress, and decision-making, on top of shouldering a great responsibility every single moment in this life. They need every ounce of divine help! Praying for them is a very valuable tool we have in our tool belt as wives. Utilize it!Thank Him
“Thank you!” Those two words are extremely powerful. Thank him for all the big and little things he does for you and the family. He may not always do things the way you would, or want him to, and that’s okay.
Show him some appreciation for everything from pouring your morning coffee to letting you sleep in an extra twenty minutes. Thank him for providing for your family, or staying home with the kids. Thank him for being the spiritual leader in your home- even if you don’t always agree with his leadership. Thank him for loving you!
I hope you enjoy implementing some, or all, of these ideas to help show your man how much you love him!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Friend,
If you’re reading this and you don’t know our God. If you haven’t been covered by the blood of Jesus and been given his Holy Spirit as a comforter, please reach out! He is waiting for you and wanting for you to accept his FREE gift of salvation. Don’t wait. It is THE most important decision you will ever make. Make it today.
With love,
Mollie
Meet Mollie
Mollie is a lover of Jesus above all. She loves her husband and family and enjoys gardening, teaching, piano, riding, and farming. She lives in SW Colorado with her husband and five kids.