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5 Ways to Protect Your Marriage

5 Ways to Protect Your Marriage

A good marriage isn’t something you find, it’s something you make and have to keep on making it.

Marriage takes work and it can be very hard sometimes But the reward of a happy marriage is so worth it! Whether you have been married for 5 years or 50 years, actively protecting your marriage is so important!

Sadly, healthy, thriving marriages are on the decline. We have an enemy that attacks marriages every day. He knows that matrimony is not only the foundation of the family, but of a healthy society.

Trevor and I are blessed to come from a long legacy of lasting marriages. My Mom’s parents celebrated their 69th anniversary this summer and are an amazing inspiration of love and commitment. My Grandma (we call her Mika!) is one of our guest bloggers here at OBM so keep yours eyes open for her words of wisdom and inspiration later this month.

Trevor’s grandparents are equally as inspiring. His Mom’s parents have been married for 64 years now and his dad’s parents for 63.
My dad’s parents also have a beautiful love story! They married when my Granny was 17 years old and have been together for almost 57 years now.
Both sets of our parents have also blessed us with beautiful examples of marriage.

Trevor’s parents will celebrate their 41st anniversary later this month (Happy anniversary Monty and Melannie!) While mine celebrated their 34th in April of this year.

Combined, that is a total of 328 years of marriage experience! We have had the incredible opportunity to see, or hear, first-hand how these couples have handled difficult situations and beautiful moments alike.

Whether, your marriage is struggling or superb
I know you will enjoy these nuggets of wedlock wisdom we have gleaned over the past 10 years.

Spend Time Together

This sounds like a simple thing but it is very easily put on the back-burner. Carve out time for each other every single day. Even if it’s only 5 uninterrupted minutes of conversation-do it! Having a date night once a week is a great goal to shoot for. We don’t always get to “go out” but we try to spend a good chunk of quality time together every week. Sometimes that looks like building fence or weeding the garden together, but working as a team is important, too.

Basically, do whatever it takes to make time for each other.

Have each Other’s Back

I cannot tell you how many times I have been in a group of wives who start talking about their husbands’ “flaws”. Before too long, it turns into a competition of who has the worst husband. “George never helps with the laundry.”, “Oh, you think that is bad??? Well, my Joshua doesn’t even put his clothes in the hamper!”, “Oh please! That’s nothing compared to the slob I live with! And to top it off, he never remembers to put the toilet seat down!”

I have fallen into this trap on more than one occasion myself. However, a few years ago I tried something new. When the talk turned to missed laundry hampers and lidless toothpaste I said something positive about my man. It is amazing how fast the dialogue would switch from negative to positive speech. I believe it is so important for your husband to know that you have his back and equally as important for you to know that he has your’s.

Don’t Neglect Intimacy

I am a firm believer that a married couple’s sex life is just that- THEIR’S! Not my business and mine is not your’s. However, intimacy in marriage is hugely important and should not be neglected. There are many resources out there to help couples in this sensitive area. One that I would recommend is Dr. Kevin Leman’s “Sheet Music”. This short read is available at most book stores and can be found on Audible.

Celebrate Each Other

Trevor and I recently took a weekend trip to celebrate our tenth anniversary This trip was to be the first time we have been able to “get-away” since we were married. There were several things that came up and/or happened right before we were supposed to leave that put me on the verge of canceling our trip! Everything from not being able to fly into the city where we needed to fly into, to our oldest son breaking his arm. My mom, sister and friend (Emily) graciously stepped in and helped get us on our way. The trip was a wonderful refreshment for both Trevor and I! (Stay tuned for more on that mini-vacay!)

Make sure your spouse knows you value them and their accomplishments. Celebrate milestones. Make a big deal out of each and every success they have. Be their biggest fan and their loudest cheerleader.

Pray Together

There is not much that is as intimate as inviting someone into your prayer life. Praying together on the regular is vastly impactful and absolutely irreplaceable! Prayer has a massive impact on marriage! Use it as an every day tool.

To sum it all up, your marriage is worth investing in! A happy marriage is one of the greatest gifts you can give to your children and, ultimately, one of the best gifts you can give to yourself as well.

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Prayer Starters for Couples

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Meet Mollie

 

Mollie is a lover of Jesus above all. She loves her husband and family and enjoys gardening, teaching, piano, riding, and farming. She lives in SW Colorado with her husband and five kids.

The God of peace will be with you-whatever is true

The God of peace will be with you-whatever is true

Practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you. Now that is something that feels worth looking into. You can find these comforting words in Philippians 4:9. I have encountered Philippians 4:8 over and over again over the last several months so I’ve decided I should stop and pray God shows me, clearly (I’m thick-headed), what He would have me understand.

Whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.Philippians 4:8

My intention over the next 8 months, Lord willing, is to focus on one aspect for a whole month. My blog post will be about “whatever is true”. You can find a reading/writing schedule below.

What is “true”?

What should we be thinking about? The entirety of God’s inspired word (aka the Bible) is what first comes to my mind. I looked “true” up. This is what I found:

TRUE: fact; faithful; loyal; free from falsehood; keeping promises; honest; exact; straight; real, not pretend

I have made a list of 30 verses that speak to the truth of God, 1 verse per day in September. I hope it will serve to encourage and comfort you and bring you and your children closer to God. Download it below.

Teach the Children

1. Journal & Discuss

2. Counting

3. Play “Telephone”

4. Play “True or False”

1. Journal and discuss

My kids and I will be journaling and discussing these verses, at least Monday-Friday. I like for them to practice their reading and writing with scriptures. Alternatively, you could pick one verse per week and help your kids memorize that one scripture.

2. Counting

ParentingLikeHannah.com has a few great ideas on how to teach your children about truth. Thereasa encourages us to use math and money to show our children there are absolute right and wrong answers. View more instructions (and see some other ideas) on ParentingLikeHannah.com.

3. Play “Telephone”

Playing a game of telephone with your kids can make you feel nostalgic. It can also give you an opportunity to discuss what is true and how easy it is for the truth to be distorted. It can also be a good opportunity to discuss what to do when we find out we have somehow become a part of sharing a distorted truth. For those who don’t know, telephone is when you whisper a word or phrase in one person’s ear and then they share with their neighbor until the phrase makes it all the way around the group. The last person says what they heard. I have never been a part of a group that got it right. Nobody intentionally says the wrong thing, but it doesn’t take a very big group for words to get skewed.

4. Play “True” or “False”

MomentsADay.com suggests playing a game of “True or False” They have great instructions over there on how to play this game with your kids.

Teaching ourselves to focus on what is true, as well as our children is a worthy goal. Not only a worthy goal but it comes with a promise from our God, the God of peace will be with us if we focus on these things. Let us know how you did. What did you do to focus on “whatever is true”? How did you teach your children?

Come back in October for “whatever is honorable”.

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Whatever is True Philippians 4:8-9 scripture list

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Meet Melinda!

Melinda is a Christian, a wife, and a mom of 6. She has a blended family. She's a recovering perfectionist who is far from perfect, but it makes her that much more grateful for God's grace and mercy in her life.

Adding Prayer to Our School Routines

Adding Prayer to Our School Routines

We just finished our first week of school—whew! It was a whirlwind of a week but we are well on our way to having that coveted routine that I’ve been missing for the last several weeks. We have a set dinner, breakfast, bedtime, and more to help make our lives run smoother during the school year.
One thing that I added to my daily routine last year, and have continued this year, is praying scripture over my kids. It’s such a simple thing to add to our daily routines and yet, when life gets busy, it’s something that is easy to let slip…or is that just me? But, prayer isn’t something that is just good to do now and then, it is something that God commands us to do!

Daily routine

To keep this as part of the daily school routine last year, I included my kids in the prayers. I found that the school drop off line was one of the easiest places to pray. When we hit the street that my kid’s school was on, we’d begin our prayer time together. Sometimes my kids grouched about it and other times they asked for the prayers. I loved it when they would participate by speaking the prayers themselves. When school drop off was crazy or hectic, I would pray in my car after my kids went into school or we would have a moment together at bedtime. I hope that we can follow the same pattern this year!

The verses that I tend to pray the most often are ones we are all familiar with:

  • Joshua 1:9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.
  • Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.
  • Ephesians 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

How can you add this to your routine?

It’s simple!

  • Pray for your children—just start talking. Ask the Lord to guide you in selecting themes/scriptures for your children—what areas do your children need growth in?
  • Select a Bible verse or two for each child or even for your family!
  • Find a time that you can pray with your spouse, your children, or even by yourself. Choose a time that you know you can be consistent with—bedtimes, breakfast, school drop off, dinner time, etc.
  • Pray and watch how God hears and answers your requests.

Some other verses that I find comforting when praying for my kids are: Philippians 4:6, Matthew 5:16, Matthew 22:37-39, Romans 12:2, Philippians 4:19, Proverbs 3:5-6, and Ephesians 4:32. There are so many wonderful scriptures to choose from and I know that you will have others to add to this list but this will get you started.

You’ve got this momma! I cannot wait to see how God works his goodness into the lives of our families this year! Blessings to you.

Meet Holly!

Holly Seagraves is a woman that wears many hats–wife, mom, personal trainer, teacher, wellness coach, and above all else, someone who loves the Lord. Holly and her husband Brad share five kids together–Lilly, Henry, Hudson, Cruz, and Claire. The craziest of the bunch is Beau, the rascally family pup! She loves to be involved in her kids’ lives whether it’s attending a sporting event, school activity, or whatever else they might decide to participate in. The Seagraves family is involved in their church and often finds ways that they can serve together. On weekends, the entire family is often found outdoors or just hanging out at home!

Flexible Routines

Flexible Routines

I was just talking to Melinda about how hard I am afraid it will be to adjust to somebody else’s schedule besides our own. Since our youngest was born, we’ve been quarantined for roughly two years; which means we didn’t have many activities outside doctor visits and family. Now, that my eldest will be starting Pre-K this fall we will have some adjusting to do.

Do you find yourself in a similar situation coming from a summer of relaxation, coming and going as you please to now having to buckle down? Making sure your kids have a bedtime, wake up at a certain time, make sure they are fed, have a packed lunch, make sure they have clean clothes, etc?  I LOVED Mollie’s recent post on back to school! Did you check out her freebie?! If you haven’t read her post yet, be sure to check it out. It has 5 great tips for getting ready for School.

Flexible Routines

Today, I want to talk about some things that help me remember what I am supposed to be doing, where and when I am supposed to do it. Along with, tips on how I try to be the most efficient with my time: making meals & visuals for children in the morning, a tip I got from www.simplefamilies.com.

Let me first say, I am not a routine gal. I prefer to change things up. I do not eat the same thing every morning nor do I have the same routine (except maybe coffee).  So, I hope these tips and tricks give the ones who are similar, helpful and efficient ideas.  Then, those who are good with strict routines, hopefully I don’t make you go crazy and start yelling at the computer to just stick to one routine. 

Looking Ahead

For planning meals and my grocery list for the week, I look at what I have already and what needs to be used up quickly. I then look at the list of our “Top 10 Favorite Meals” and fill in each day, trying to pay attention to what activities we have going on that week.

I keep track of activities on my phone calendar and a wall calendar in our kitchen. This has helped me keep track of where I need to be and when.  I set alarms for reminders of deadlines and for birthdays I make sure they repeat every year so I can remember to tell family members and friends, “Happy Birthday”

Meals

But I do have a few of my “simple staple” meals with a little bit of prep that help make meal time easier. I try to always have ingredients for these meals on hand. 

For breakfast we choose from a few of our favorites: banana, oatmeal, cereal, eggs, sandwich, casserole or granola bar.  

Lunch we usually throw a protein on the plate with some fruit and veggies or just have leftovers.

For dinners I cook a whole chicken in the beginning of the week and use the bones for bone broth.   Throughout the week you can make: quesadilla’s, taco’s, chicken pot pie, chicken noodle soup, chicken salad, shredded BBQ chicken sandwiches, or a simple throw veggies and rice in with the chicken.

I also cook up ground beef to make: taco’s, noodles and meat sauce, shepherd’s pie, or sloppy joe’s.  If I think even further ahead I can shape up some burgers, season and freeze them. 

Another little trick I will to be implementing this school year is a visual for things for my daughter to accomplish before we leave for school. I saw this on www.simplefamilies.com.  

Schedule 

(visual with pictures)

1. Wake up

2. Pray/Read Bible

3. Eat breakfast

4. Brush your teeth

5. Brush your hair

6. Get dressed

7. Pack your bag

8. Play until it’s time to go

 

Outfits

Recently, we also took pictures of her 15 item of clothes in different outfit options.

In the mornings, she’ll be able to look at the picture and make a decision.  I personally struggle with making decisions quickly so this will help her practice and achieve confidence in that skill.  All these clothes were second hand or on sale at a retail store and the best part is they can transition from end of summer to fall and winter. 

Freebies

We here at OneBlessedMomma will be praying for you and your babies as you enter into this new and upcoming season. We pray these posts provide inspiration and encouragement to strive to be more like Jesus in your motherhood journey.

Below are two free printables. One is a preschool lesson plan if you are wanting to plan activities for your preschooler or even adjust it to make a visual for your child in the activities they will be doing that day.

The next one is a weekly checklist to help you visualize what you will be accomplishing that week all in one place.

Have a blessed week!

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Meet Julia!

Julia is a wife to her high-school sweetheart, a mother to two beautiful girls and a follower of Christ.   She loves crafting, teaching and is forever grateful for a God who is in control of all unknowns and thankful we can have a peace that surpasses all understanding.

How to reframe when plans fall through

How to reframe when plans fall through

How many times have you made plans only for them to fall through? How do you handle your plans falling apart?
James 4:13-15 encourages us to not take tomorrow for granted as tomorrow is not promised. Instead we should say “if the Lord wills…”

If you want to hear all about our adventures, continue reading. If you’re just here for how to reframe when plans fall through, click here.

We are currently on vacation. A vacation that has gone “wrong” at every turn. We started out leaving late from Pennsylvania and just before we made it to our first stop in North Carolina our car started overheating.

Because we left late, we missed dinner with friends. We had car problems which led to us being in North Carolina for three extra nights. Our poor friends were amazing hosts to unplanned guests, and there were 7 of us at that point.

So we left North Carolina 3 days late and headed to see our oldest son. We had planned to attend church with him and then take him along on our vacation. We missed church (we headed to see him on Tuesday instead of Saturday) and instead met him near the airport he would fly back to. We stopped for the night and continued on the next day skipping a couple of extra stops we had hoped to make.

Our oldest son and my husband took turns driving overnight and got us all the way to my husband’s mother’s house. We didn’t have as much time there as we had hoped but we were so happy to see family. We stayed one day more than we had initially planned, but couldn’t make up all of our planned time because our oldest son had to get back in time for work and he had purchased a plane ticket to fly out of Colorado. He is in the military so his plans had to stick 🙂 . 

Summer fun with cousins

Summer fun with cousins

Painting rocks

Thank you Aunt Cathy!

A hike in New Mexico

Lunch with Granny

We cut just enough time from our planned arrival in Colorado that he could make his flight Monday morning. We did have one dinner with my entire family from two sets of my grandparents, to my parents, and my siblings and their spouses and children. It was a little crazy to have 30 people in one house, but it was so wonderful! I am so blessed to have so much family in my life!

Because we had to leave New Mexico a day later than originally planned we missed a planned birthday party with cousins. My 3 youngest and Mollie’s 3 youngest all have summer birthdays. Mine have never had a birthday celebration with grandparents, cousins, aunts, and uncles, so we were super excited, but it didn’t work out. More plans falling through.

Plans continued to change and shift as my dad’s one day off for the week changed from Monday to Tuesday.

We took the opportunity to move forward with birthday party plans, it wasn’t going to be as big, but at least all the cousins would be together. The plan was to have a camping/s’more birthday party outside at my brother’s house (he happens to be married to the wonderful Mollie). But just as so many other plans changed on this trip, things weren’t lining up Monday for a birthday party either.

We were an hour late (and we’re the ones on vacation), it rained (makes it hard to be outside and have a fire to roast marshmallows for s’mores). Mollie did an amazing job of fixing dinner for everyone and making the night special for my birthday kids.

Tuesday, things were finally going as planned. We headed to our favorite local waterfalls. We ate lunch together and then we split into two groups. Some of us (moms and younger kids) headed to the falls and the others (grandpas, dads, and the older kids) headed above the falls. We have been hiking to the falls for 40+ years, we haven’t hiked above the falls in about 20 years.

Those of us who hiked to the falls played in the Piedra River a little bit and let the kids be mountain goats (climbing more than was good for my nerves HA!). The skies were starting to get dark so we decided to head back to the vehicles before it rained.

Piedra Falls

Letting the kids hike

Playing in the water

 

 

Playing in the Piedra

Playing in the Piedra

We got the kids drinks and snacks when we got back to the cars and settled into chairs for what we thought would be a short wait for the others. Turns out the others were having more adventure than was planned. 

Those who hiked above the falls discovered trails that were hard to find and they were steeper and rockier than remembered. My 86-yr-old grandfather, my dad, my husband and 5 kids ranging from 9-17 were on the hike. They saw some beautiful views, but worried us all when they didn’t get back to the vehicles until 9pm. It was getting dark and the only reason we knew they were coming down was because someone was whistling. I’ve never been so happy to hear whistling!  

The rest of the week went as planned, maybe because we didn’t have many plans other than to enjoy family. 🙂

Then Saturday night rolls around and we are preparing to leave early the next morning. At dinner my older brother shared that he had found a vehicle for us (remember everything began to fall apart because our vehicle was not doing well on the trip). AND my daughter convinced my dad and her dad to say yes to her bringing a puppy home. So now we decided to stick around on Sunday to look at a vehicle and get a puppy ready for a 2,000 mile road trip.

Monday morning I began typing this and I am finally posting on Friday because I couldn’t get it done remotely as we travelled. We have made it home, safely and with NO car problems.

People plan and God laughs

I have made so many plans in my life that don’t work out. I wonder how many times I have to learn the lesson that ultimately God’s plans are ALWAYS better than mine!

Only God knows what our futures hold. I do believe making plans and thinking of our futures does not go against God, but we have to remember to keep God first. If the Lord wills, we will do this or that… (James 4:13-15 paraphrased). Romans 8:6 For to set the mind on the flesh is death but to set the mind on the spirit is life and peace.

God first, everything else second.

Matthew 6:33 ESV Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. One thing I have found, is that if you are focused on God when your plans fall through it is easier to see the blessings.

 

  • Stuck in North Carolina for 3 extra days. The blessing? I was able to spend the better part of 3 days talking to a dear sweet friend and this was much needed food for my soul. What an encouragement our conversations were.
  • Left New Mexico Sunday morning instead of Saturday. The blessing? We were able to spend more time with a nephew and his kids than we would have otherwise, and we fit in a hike my husband has wanted to do again for the last 20 years.
  • We missed the planned birthday party on Saturday night. The blessing? I was able to spend the day at my sister’s house baking 3 cakes with her, and my kids were able to spend time with her kids. Cousin time is so precious! Blessing #2 I was able to sit around a campfire at my brother’s house, just his family and mine. I got to tell his kids stories about him. We sang songs while the kids roasted marshmallows. This was unplanned, but one of my favorite parts of our trip.
  • We didn’t leave the falls “on time”. The blessing? My son and his cousin were the two oldest kids on the hike above the falls, they were put in charge of making sure their Great-Grandpa made it down safely. The bond this created between the three of them is a bigger blessing than I could have imagined. I know they are blessed to have their Great-Grandpa in their life! He told everyone who would listen how thankful he was for those two boys. They put grandpa first and would take turns staying with him while the other would scout the trails to find the safest way down. Blessing #2 We were able to see how God was watching over us. We have been up there before when the rain came. As a result there was a lot of concern about going off the road. It never did anything more than sprinkled on us; however, down below the mountain it rained so much that my brothers (who had to work) were concerned we were stuck on the mountain because roads near their homes had 2 feet of water on them. They actually were headed to come find us about the time we finally returned to cell service and we were able to tell them we were all fine. So we stopped them just before they were out of cell service, had timing been just a little off, we could have met each other and not known. 
  • We didn’t leave for home on time. The blessing? I got to stay one more day with my family. I was also able to go to church where I spent much of my growing up years. It was so good to see some familiar faces of sweet women who have been such an encouragement in my momma journey!

Keep going

Sometimes you can plan everything out and all goes according to plan. Other times it feels like nothing is working out right. This can be so frustrating and you want to throw in the towel. DON’T!

Keep moving forward.

Look for those silver linings.

Seek out how God is working through your circumstances.

Check your focus. Are you focused on the flesh or the spirit?

I can see how my plans falling apart has led me and members of my family to grow. I pray these experiences continue to influence us and cause us to grow to God.

How do you recover from changing plans?

Meet Melinda!

Melinda is a Christian, a wife, and a mom of 6. She has a blended family. She's a recovering perfectionist who is far from perfect, but it makes her that much more grateful for God's grace and mercy in her life.

Role Changes

Role Changes

I used to be a Kindergarten teacher. I decided to stay at home when I had my firstborn.

Since then all of my teaching “stuff” has been placed into the basement. Recently, I have sorted through some of my children’s books. I have been able to give many children books away, but the past few weeks, I went through the majority of my teaching textbooks, children’s books and resources to be able to donate to a new classroom.

It made me reflect on all the life that has occurred to bring me to this very moment and all the role changes I have gone through.

Before I was married I was a daughter, granddaughter, friend, girlfriend, and student. These were all the independent years when I mostly had to just think and worry about myself.

Mrs. Trayer

I got married, got a new job and therefore, a new title of Mrs. Trayer. I was now in charge of paying attention to someone else’s needs other than my own, who was a part of me. Also, in charge of little children who depended on me for 8-10 hours of their day and their parents who expected me to teach their littles how to read and write their ABC’s.

I enjoyed being a wife and a teacher duo. I got to practice those roles for many years. I learned a lot about my job as a teacher and a lot about myself as a person while being a wife and it especially made me reflect on the relationship of Christ with the church. During this time, I was able to get a decent amount of sleep and could eat what I wanted, when I wanted. Whether that meant eating at home, eating out or having to change my thought process to cooking whole foods that would help me get off my thyroid medication (that’s a whole other story).

Mother

When I become a mother my role changed and it changed quickly and drastically.

If you have never been pregnant or are currently pregnant with your first PLEASE do not be discouraged. This is a beautiful process. It can be hard but it doesn’t make it any less beautiful. Just think about how the caterpillar has to metamorphose into a beautiful butterfly. Not always easy but beautiful.

Then, I had my first child and everything that I did for myself now became second because I was in complete control of keeping this precious little human alive. I asked myself how? How am I supposed to take care of myself postpartum AND take care of this precious baby who needs me around the clock? I am completely new to this role and I don’t even know her. I felt the need to observe her almost every second so I could figure out her every cry and know what she needed when she needed it.

Yet, I was in pain. Somehow, I needed to figure out how to heal and keep my body from getting worse and gaining an infection. It pained me to stand longer than 10 minutes. When was I supposed to get my food and take a shower? Do I even dare put clean clothes on that were just going to get spit up on in 20 minutes? Also, what clothes do I even put on? Nothing fits me the same way. The nursing tank I got was too small because how was I to know that the milk my body was producing would change the size of my milk containers.

Ice packs, ice packs, and more ice packs.

I was exhausted. I would sleep 2-3 hours stretches. Since my husband had to drive for work, I offered to take the nights because I was the one feeding her and I didn’t have to drive the next day for work. I remember I would pray for daylight because the nights were LOOONNNNGG. I had a whole new understanding of the verse, “joy comes in the morning”. I felt I needed coffee to be alert enough to take care of my baby, yet remind myself “you’re not supposed to have too much caffeine in a day”.

So many changes occur in a year to you physically, mentally, and spiritually. If you are the first of your friends to have a baby, it may feel hard to relate and have someone to talk to.

We also start to compare ourselves to other moms, whether it’s the support they receive, how they make it look so easy, the temperments of their children, etc. 

Turning Points

I LLOOOVVVVEEEDD my new title AND there were also times I wondered who I was becoming. Did I recognize her?

This wasn’t a bad thing, but this was a turning point for me and can be for a lot of mothers.

At this moment, it made me start thinking about the one role that has NEVER changed and has stayed constant: my role as a daughter of God. This has been the role I can always rely on for identity and strength. A role that I look back at all the ups and downs and can observe any growth and any falls in my journey.

To help in identifying my identity I started searching for love, joy and peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

I Remind myself, I am loved, I am chosen, I am blessed.

Then, I check in with myself.  Also, don’t forget to check in with other momma’s too.  Talk to those around you- mother’s you look up to.  Lastly, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Proverbs 31:25: “She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.”

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Print out to remind yourself of who you are and whose you are. 

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Meet Julia!

Julia is a wife to her high-school sweetheart, a mother to two beautiful girls and a follower of Christ.   She loves crafting, teaching and is forever grateful for a God who is in control of all unknowns and thankful we can have a peace that surpasses all understanding.